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THE BLIND SPOTS IN A BRAINWASHED MIND- THE CULTURAL APPROVAL OF ABUSE


The western culture has become perverted in so many ways by narcissists and sociopaths.
Take for example this song; "I love the way you lie", by Rihanna and Eminen, it says it all. The
narcissists hijack all areas of life, all concepts
, and twist and turn them around to being something
totally different
, than they really were meant to be originally. The degradation is ingrained in our
whole western mass culture
, and it´s rampant. A lot of the music, mainstream media and movies today
are so perverted
, and twisted in such a sick way, that I feel alienated from most of the culture that is
produced. It´s twisted so, that i
t´s the victims fault, if they feel bad when they´re being abused,
like in the song I mentioned
. Movies often have a 'happy' ending, where the girl has been played and
gamed by the boy, and at the end of the movie it cuts in a 'loving' kiss and a 'promising' future, from
what we are supposed to believe.

When the movie ends, we don´t get to see the continuing abuse. We are just supposed
to fill in the blanks and assume that he came around and became "good"
, and that she´s so happy.
That 'that' is 'love' happily
ever after. Never do they enlighten us to the fact, that this guy is rutten
to his core. This girl just looks puzzled and asks "Why does he do that" in confusion, when he abuses her.
We never get the answer
s to that question. After all; it´s our "choise" to be in a relationship? Right? I´ll
expand on this so called "choise" later on. If we just corrupt our own thoughts and emotions enough ,
we will be just 'fine'. With the corruption I mean, not taking our emotions seriously, and ignoring our intuition.
To second guess the natural reaction of pain and anxiety, that are the effects of abuse. Saying to oneself: "don´t
be so sensitive,
you´re overreacting", to minimize the gutfeeling. "To feel bad is always ones own fault,
you can control your emotional state, huh?". " It´s just insecurity". "We are after all adults, aren´t we?".
"He doesn´t mean it that way". It´s twisted so that if we feel bad from how we´ve been handled by an
abusor, we´re the 'sick' one, and that´s our own fault. This concept creates a sense of isolation in us.

All the songs and music about "Love" that "hurts", the movies with women that are being treated badly, teach
and program us, about the narcissistic pervertion of a 'love'-concept, that has nothing to do with
real love. Movies and songs don´t teach us about real love, they program us of the narcissistic perversion of their
concept of "love". They teach us, that the victims are the ones that are supposed to do all the work. To selflessly and
unconditionally give of themselves to the abusor. In reality, real love never hurts. Sure, a misunderstanding or
an overstepped boundary can hurt, even if it´s not intentionally overstepped. But love in itself is pure. It´s the
belief that love is something that it´s not, that hurts. The deception and the concept of narcissistic "love". But
in reality, they have no concept of what real love is.That´s the corruption, they aren´t able to connect with
themselves and others in a way, so that real love is accessible for them. It´s abscent in their mind set.

The myth is that "girls love bad guys", and a rape gets twisted so that "she wanted to get raped". Women really don´t
love bad guys, but they are targeted by bad men, the narcissists. Then there of course are
female narcissists too. And if someone clames to 'crave' to be mistreated by a bad man, a narcissist, I question
whether this person might be a narcissist themselves, and are twisting words in some way, that I don´t understand.
The narcissists love to create confusion, and invent new meanings to words. It´s like we are talking totally different
languages, the words sounds alike, but seem to mean something different, because everything they say is so twisted
and turned around. It´s like they live in an alternative reality, separate from ours, but are able thouch our lives in an
evil way. Like in a black magic mirror, where everything is upside down, twisted to the opposite, than in our world.
Love is the same as hate, joy is to inflict pain to others, happiness is to destroy peoples lives. It´s so weird.

The concept of 'forgiveness' is being used by narcissists to control and pressure the targets, and if forgiving doesn´thappen,
the victims gets to hear they are 'bad' and can´t claim to be spiritual. I don´t suggest that forgiveness is
a bad thing in itself
, but it´s being used in a perverted way by narcissists. It´s a form of spiritual abuse, since
forgivness many times is something that spiritual communities value high.

But how educated choises can a human being do, when she lacks knowledge about what´s being done to her? Is it
stupidity to subject oneself to
an abusive person? Or is it just lack of information? Or is it a whole society or even whole
nations, that are blinded by the fact, that here are a lot of narcissists everywhere, and that they are evil? Not
even psychologists and doctors knows how to spot a narcissist.
They are so "talented" in deceiving us. We´re being showered
with attitudes from everywhere, that overconfidence and 'self love' in massive amounts is the wayto go. There are so many
"techniques" we can learn, to how to raise our selfconfidence, and they all cost a lot of money, since a high selfconfidence has
such a high value in our society. These attributes are so 'attractive' to us, or, we´re being hypnotized into believing that they are. 
Mainstream media use these traits, as to how we should be as human beings, they are the role models. Even a narcissist won the US
election! "So that must really be the best way to be". They are alway so overly portrayed everywhere, as if these are 'greatness'
and admirable traits. Most of us are buying in to this.  

Abuse is never an isolated incident, it´s ingrained in our culture. But we, the targets, experience the abuse intensely in isolation,
without knowing that this is going on everywhere. When targets don´t have support anywhere, and feel isolated,
they are easily manipulated. This is a huge problem in our society.
The abusors are portra
yed as the "popular" ones. Why? Because there are so many abusors and narcissists out there,
in USA there are 12 million sociopaths!!! Imagine how much damage they create every single day! And then let´s add all the
narcissists and borderliners, that´s a lot of millions of narcissists and socipaths! They cluster up together and get stronger
in groups. They live by their own rules, cross every boundarie they can. They choose their targets together, and they even
abuse each other, and they like it. To accidentally find oneself in a situation with a group of abusors, narcissists and sociopaths,
is really dangerous. And this includes families with one or several narcissists.

As kids the narcissists are the ones that bully other kids, in particular the vulnerable ones, that don´t conform and
participate in their abuse and bullying. They abuse their pets, sometimes even kill them, or at least handle them harshly.
They abuse their more sensitive siblings, and never conform to their parents rules, or just pretend that they do.
Nor do they conform to their teachers rules at school.
Their inner landscapes and emotions are twisted to the right opposite, compared to kids who are able to experience
genuine love. The narcissist kids love to inflict pain and destruction to other peoples lives, even their own families. They
always are the desruptive ones at school, and destroy the environment to the other kids, so that it´s more difficult to
concentrate and to learn. The yelling, intimidations and violations at the school environment stresses and traumatizes
the more vulnerable kids, and again, this creates problems with focusing on the tasks they have at their hands at school. So many
vulnerable kids are so traumatized by the school environment, that they early on develop depression, anxiety and other problems.
The narcissist kids love the things, that the kids with capacity to love fear and feel disgusted about, and dont´t like. The
narcissist kids don´t like kindness, curiosity, compassion, generosity and care, they are perfectly well all together without these.
They don´t seek nurture or closeness from their parents or siblings. If they do, it´s always with some agenda in their sleeves.
They don´t connect to their parents, or their environment at all. Their goal is to take control over their environments, even as kids.
To try to speak to a narcissist kid about emotions, is totally futile, it´s not gonna happen, because they don´t have emotions
the same way as we have, so they can´t relate to our way of speaking of emotions, since theirs are biologically twisted to
the opposite than our emotions, so that´s never gonna happen. I have been working with kids, and have experience on this
subject.
The narcissist kid love to steal, intimidate their school mates, to lie and deceive. And nothing is gonna
change this equation, nothing. And we´re not allowed to diagnose these evil kids, because they "might grow out of their
conditions". But actually they never do, they just get smarter and more covert in their deceptions and abuse, they learn from other
adult narcissists how to be more sneaky about their evil doings. They are not kids with genuine intentions, they are the same
as they are when they become adults. They practice evil doing their whole lives. This is what was given to them at birth,
and that´s never gonna change. And the adult narcissists protect these narcissist kids, so that the abuse is totally
impossible to stop in any school. The adult narcsissist teachers even cluster up with the narcissist kids, and both enable
and participate in the abuse to continue at school. And the narcissistic parents do the same at home, enables the abuse
of the more sensitive siblings. Since the narcissist teachers, parents, kids in every school cluster up, the vulnerable kids
have no protenction anywhere. This is the reason why so many vulnerable kids, who are targeted, commit suicide. And it´s
twisted in the way, that these vulnerable kids were 'psychologically ill', in other words, it´s their own fault that they react and feel
the pain and anxiety from being bullied.
They are targets at all areas of life, at home, at school, other kids, relatives, every aspect of life where there are narcissists.
And the abusors protect each other. The word "bullying" is also a word that is used to minimize the abuse, so that the vulnerable
victim gets to be blamed. They often get to hear, "what did you do to provoke the other kids?!?" Even from the parents. So there´s
no way for a target kid to protect themselves, or to get help anywhere. No adults listen to a vulnerable kid, anywhere. Noone
understand what they are going through. Or the ones that perhaps do understand, are the ones who were victimized themselves
as kids, and still are victims and are being victimized as adults, who have a very little capacity to provide any protection or change
in the school environment.

As grown ups the narcissists either become criminals, or seek positions of power in society, where they can continue
their abuse of vulnerable individuals, or targets. Sometimes even not so vulnerable individuals, but the vulnerable are the
easy ones, and narcissists prefer not to make any greater effort if they don´t have to. If they are not able to get a
prestigeous job, they choose the criminal path, or just to get a woman pregnant, and abuse her and the child behind
closed doors. Or if they are a woman, they do the same with a man and some kids. If they aren´t able to catch a woman
and produce kids, they abuse coworkers at work, rape someone, troll the internet, steal, lie, and whatever they
can come up with. There´s always some damage they can do wherever they are. To engage with a narcissist is like
wrestling with a pig in a mud hole, and the pig likes it.  


To own our problems. "You are the creator of your own reality", when thrown in the face of a target, it´s abuse. "You can´t
change anyone but yourself
" is another one, that I´ll expand on later. "It takes two to tango" gives the abuser a great excuse
to blame the target, when really being the abusing one. "You´re all about drama" is the pointing at the reaction to the abuse,
within the victim, and the blameshifting that narcissists are doing. The narcissist is the one who manipulate us to react dramatically
by harassing us, and then blaming us for the response they expect us to have. "You´re so insecure", is the shifting of focus to
the
effect of the abuse, instead of the abuser and the abuse itself, and then again blaming us for it. "She´s so needy" is another
way to twist a manipulation away from the narcissist, so that they can blame their victim for the reaction of being ignored on
purpose by the narcissist. It´s really hard for the target to try to "own" her "own" problems, because they don´t belong to her.
The narcissist inflicts these problems onto her, makes them hers, but they are really his. And the targets succomb to the
narcissists manipulations, and are the ones who go to therapy. The target seem to be the 'sick' one. They´re the ones with
anxiety, and isn´t anxiety a sickness?(I don´t agree, it´s a healthy way to react in a sick environment). So it must be them?
The narcissists are feeling just fine, and they on purpose manufacture new problems and psychological and physical diseases for the victim,
that were´nt there before. So, is it fair to say to a target, that she must own her own problems? No, I don´t think so! This is,
again, the narcissist twisting things around to victimize the target.


It´s a bad advice to tell a victim to "own" her "own" problems, since the narcissist is the one manufacturing them all the time.
The narcissist really is the one who is the source of our pain. We try to treat the effects of the narcissists abuse, but there´s
no way of healing in this concept. We need to know that the narcissist IS THE problem, not us.

To have a narcissist in our lives is like sitting in the middle of a field of peace, and suddenly there´s an army of soldiers coming to
attack us. And we sit there in the field, and wondering what´s wrong with us, it hurts so much when the bullets are piercing our skin.
Why does our skin react in that way? Here´s only love? And there comes blood? Why are we bleeding? We don´t understand. Why
does this happen to us? We continue to sit there, and pretend that there´s peace, but there will never be peace, ever.
And we begin to second guess ourselves; maybe we deserved to have our skin pierced with bullets? Maybe we´re unworthy?
We maybe seek therapy. Why did that happen? Why are we so anxious? Why can´t we sleep? What did we do wrong?
(We didn´t leave) Then there comes more bullets. Aoutch! More pain. We don´t realize that that´s what soldiers do,
they shoot bullets into bodies. And we hear the soldiers praise the wonderfulness of bullets, and how great they are, and
that it´s our own fault that we feel pain when they shoot at us, not theirs!!! They did nothing wrong! The soliders convince
us that the bullets are healthy, and that we are to blame for them coming at us. It´s for our own good, they say. We made
them shoot, they´re innocent! And by the way, they didn´t actually shoot at all, they just moved their arms a little, but there
are holes in our skin. And the holes hurt. Or, after all, there were not even any guns, so you´re just imagining, you´re crazy,
it IS your fault
!! And we are confused. Wasn´t this supposed to be "love"? No, not to them.
We were only pieces in their game, their pretending. We didn´t know we were a part in a game, that we were set up for. But we
were played, and they were the ones that set up the rules, it was their game board, and we had no clue.


When we look at the problem as isolated to our own personal experiences, we miss that this is a cultural attitude, and that
narcissism in our society is growing hugely every day. Sensitivity, emotions, gutfeelings are something we´re not supposed to care
about, we´re programmed into ignoring these from childhood. Or, if the narcissists are interested in emotions and spirituality, they
pervert even these. In these cases, they specialize in manipulating the targets, so that they never are able to recognize abuse. A
lot of so called spiritual communities speak of a concept, where there is no "I" or person, but "we are all one". So when there´s no
"me", there´s no "I" who can be aware of being abused, while abuse is going on. This becomes a blind spot in a brainwashed mind.


When we are being accused of playing the role of victimhood, things are getting twisted around. Yes, the abusor often pretends
to be a victim, often convinsingly. The narcissist pervert the concept of victimhood in a way, so that the target can´t allow themselves
to see that they actually ARE being victimized. You´ve certainly heard :"She´s just playing the victim card!", which indicates that she
in reality isn´t one. That´s a lie. This twist also creates blind spots in society and in us, so that we´ll allow the abuse to continue,
when we see it happening to other victims. I´m sure you´ve also heard this one: "she´s just looking for attention", as if not everyone
look for that sometimes. We humans need human connections, we are social beings, and connection makes us feel good. It´s natural and healthy
to connect. And by this one they reveal, that actually they are the ones that just are seeking attention, at someone elses expense,
by pointing out that the victim doesn´t really deserve the attention that she desire, only the narcissist is the one that deserves
that attention. They twist this around, so that we are supposed to believe that it´s something wrong with us, for desiring human
connection. And for to be able to connect, we need to attend to each other, give each other our attention. Narcissists try to block
this attention, so we won´t have access to neither our own attention, theirs or anyone elses attention. Their agenda is to isolate us.


The narcissists also manipulate us to cross our own boundaries, so we sometimes behave in ways that´s not in our character, and
that is against our own values. This raises our inner tension, to loose the sense of control over our own behaviour. They want to
corrupt our minds and behaviours, so that we´re not able to think for ourselves, and make our own decisions, based on our values.
All the narcissist parents, teachers and other narcissist people that possibly can dominate a situation take the advantage of this kind
of manipulation.


When not seeing things for what they really are, it´s like trying to navigate with a map, that is empty. There are no directions,
no clues as to where to go, how to behave. We become confused and lost. We loose our dreams, ambitions, passions, goals,
friends, families, our hobbies, jobs, our health, night sleep, and our inner engines doesn´t work as they used to...We become
endlessly tired. We don´t even know who we are eventually. This is the end goal of the narcissist, and their success is completed.
All concepts are being perverted by the narcissists. We´re not allowed to admit to ourselves that we are being victimized. This is
the crazymaking, the danger to our health. "Why do I feel so bad?". "I feel sick, but the doctor says there´s nothing wrong with me".
We are not allowed to see reality as it is. This twisting around with words and our minds, takes away the tools for us all to understand
reality, and our experiences. It´s so dangerous and confusing to a victim and to the whole society. This is the draining of our energy,
our life force, the vampirism.

Have you ever concidered the societys fascination of the vampire movies? Or, have you seen the animated movie "Monsters Inc"?
These monsters travel into childrens rooms by night, when the children are asleep. They jump out in the room and scare the
children, and the monsters are energized by this interaction with the children and their fear. This is, again, a portrait of the
narcissism in the society. The narcissists are the dangerous entities that are sucking our life force out of us, and we are like small
children uninformed by this assault, scared and abused by them. These movies about vampires has always been utterly uninteresting
to me, and I never understood the fascination people have of them. But now I do. They see something about themselves in these
characters. We also have all the movies about Dracula, the blood sucking entity, that is so 'attractive' to women. What is attractive
about being sucked out of ones life force? Nothing at all, in my humble opinion.  


We´re programmed into having blind spots.

We´re not supposed to be aware of, that abuse is going on everywhere in the society. When someone mistreats us, we´re expected
to look within ourselves, to see what´s wrong within US, even if there is nothing wrong. Think of the new age movement and
religions, they encourage us all to always look inwardly, never to point a finger at another person, however they might have
mistreated us, and to find what´s wrong within ourselves. Just turn the other cheek, so they can hit it too!! It´s like the new
age movement and religions are helping and supporting the narcissists agenda. The narcissists never subject themselves to turn
the other cheek for a second slap, not even the first slap. They always see to be the ones that are delivering the slaps, and that
the victims are always at the receiving end for the slap. They see to that a victim always stays a victim, and that the abusor stays
an abusor. But we, the victims, we are so cooperative in our mindset, so we do this, blame ourselves as we are told to, and are expected
to do, we really are 'good girls and boys', and we do turn the other cheek for the second slap. We want to be so good, so we stop thinking
about the injustice in how it is set up for us. The movements and religions suggests us to "own our own problems and
issues" which is a bogus-trick, so we continue to ignore the abuse. We´re not being taught how to protect ourselves, we´re taught to
be at the receiving end of abuse, right from the start. And the society is reinforcing this mind set, still today! We´re not taught to trust
our own opinions, thoughts, desires and views, or how to spot an abuser. We didn´t have someone who protected us against abuse as
children, noone really saw us and our suffering. We weren´t allowed to think for ourselves, since every time we tried to voice our
thoughts, they´ve been silenced by a toxic environment, that harshly minimized and ridiculed every word that came out of our mouths.
Both our homes and schools has been a great "help" in this suppression. So how would we know, how to avoid the danger in these
relationships
? So did we really choose these relationships? I would say no, we were targeted from the start!! There´s no way we
could have known what we were set up for.

The New Age and self help/coaching movements are a lot to blame also here. We´re being told that "you can´t change anyone else,
you can only change yourself", which is only a half truth. It´s true that you can´t change someone else, but the truth is also that we
actually can´t change ourselves either. I know, it´s a chocking concept, but nonetheless it´s a fact. Just concider this;

The only thing we can do is to learn to accept ourselves as we already are. We come up with a set of genes, up to date conditionings,
conclusions about them, insights or lack of them. Then we have the life circumstances that we cannot control, shit happens. We also
have our unconscious mind, which rules about 95% of our lives. So... we really can´t change who we are, but the abusor wants us to
believe that
we can! What a trick!!!They wants us to do the chicken race 24/7, us to be the one who do all the analyzing, the self
reflecting, the seeking, the therapy, all the meditation and the work, take all the responsibility for the whole relationship, to be the one
who fixes the relationship and everything else, the one who tries to heal. All of it is a task that is doomed to be failed. So we come to
feel like failures... While them themselves are leaning back in the couch enjoying the show!! We´re so wrapped up in looking for solutions,
as to how to fix our lives, without realizing that that´s not in our power. We´re the ones that are expected to seek help for "our sickness"
that they project on to us. And it really belongs to them. Here again, it´s the upside- down -inside -out -twisted-world.


This whole concept of having so much responisibility is draining our spirit. They want us to question ourselves and find the faults
within US, so we won´t see what´s going on. Not to say that we can´t grow and be more aware of ourselves and our lives- but
our true Self
, our inner core, is what it is. It´s never gonna change. This is what´s given by the creator to us, when we were
born, it´s what we´re 'stuck' with for our entire lives. So why question it, and try to fight ourselves? We might as well go on and
accept ourselves, as we are. To try to change ourselves, is to set us up to a task that is impossible to succeed in, and endless, and
it will keep us occupied from living our lives. It becomes a pseudo life. And we won´t succeed, since we already are who we are. And it´s
impossible to try to become what we are not. It´s a deception.

This is another trick the narcissists play on us; we´re not supposed to see what they are, AND we´re also not supposed to see
ourselves for who we truely are. They want us to see ourselves as flaud, imperfect, and something that got stuck under the dogs paw.
Worthless in other words. By this assault we get deeply motivated and committed in claiming our self worth, to prove to the narcissist
that we actually are worth something, aren´t we? So, we become spiritual seekers. This is a part of our never ending chicken race with
ourselves. Without knowing that we already are worthy from the beginning. Such a waste! They take away our self worth, so that we get
to spend our time reclaiming what already is ours!

There are so many pseudo sciences, that are created for the sole purpose, for people to try to "fix" themselves, to
constantly try to change oneself to a "better me", which is never gonna happen. Healing comes only with accepting, and
allowing oneself to be who we truely are, including all the difficult and painful emotions we experience, by getting all the
abusors out of our lives.

TO LOOK WITHIN

The new age and coaching movements usually recommend us to "look within" (I´m not saying we should ignore our inner landscapes,
please don´t misunderstand this
). Maybe we want to see ourselves as spiritual beings, and narcissists even corrupt this concept of
"looking within". They want us to look within, but not to our spiritual inner being, they want us to focus inwardly to our pain, and in
massive amounts of time
.They want us to obsess about the pain. And they want us to desire a "fix" for this pain. They want us to
be overwhelmed with this task!

And we´re truely so despereate to "fix" the problems and pains, and we need to believe that they are fixable, with the narcissist
being there in the mix. We need to feel that there´s something we actually can do. We´re not ready to accept that we feel
powerlessness, hopelessness and depression, it´s too painful. We try to juggle with the equation, with the narcissist in
the middle of everything, like the blue elephant in the room, that we´re not supposed to see. He´s there, and he´s desruptive,
and we ignore the disruption. Huh? And it´s painful.

We are tricked into believing that only if WE fix OUR pain, OUR anxieties/insecurities, OUR depressions, then we won´t see that these
are the EFFECTS of what is going on. It´s like a magic trick. They´re off the hook. We´re blinded by the effects that THEY are
inflicting on us.

But it´s not until we accept the powerlessness, helplessness, pain and depression as our inner guidance system, take them really
seriously, listen to our emotions in every possible way, that we can come
to terms with the truth and reality. It´s the situation with the abusor that is the whole reason for the hopelessness,
powerlessness, pain and the depression. THEY wants us to believe, that we can do something about the situation, but the truth is,
that he´s not gonna help in any way!! They blind sides us, deceives us, lies, manipulates and it´s impossible to improve anything
when an abusor is in our close vicinity. They love to watch our chicken race with ourselves! It´s their creation! And we have no clue.

Pretty soon after we leave the abusor, and go no contact, and lick our wounds, we heal and get to feel better. The depression
heals, the anxiety disappears, unless we again entangle our lives with another abusor, and unless we have other abusors in our
lives. But we might have encountered fibromyalgia or other diseases due to the former abuse already.  

The only thing we can do is to accept our experiences, cut our losses, lick our wounds and hope to heal. And to be aware every
time we meet new people, that they might be an abusor, a narcissist. To raise awarness of the red flags, and go out in life and
try out our wings again. To see if we can fly by ourselves, without a narcissist that drains us on our life forces.

This is the same concept for communities and nations. The awarness of these disruptive people needs to be raised. A big problem
is that the narcissists are drawn into positions of power in our communities and nations. They are certainly not the ones who´s
gonna cooperate in sharing this information, they don´t want anyone to know. Noone can protect themselves, if they don´t know
what the danger is, not even the communities or nations. Their end goal is to corrupt, control, disrupt, destroy, destruct, deceive,
steal, rob, threat, rape, violate, victimize, and to serve only themselves. They aren´t gonna help, in trying to improve anything in
the society. They want to do their work in the shadows.

The narcissists are gonna try to do the blameshifting again, and find reasons why
all the problems are the victims fault. That the victims are the violent ones, the deceiving ones, the dangerous. Let´s not buy into this.
And remember, everything is being so distorted and twisted around, that the values the mainstream media is standing for,
are most of the time so twisted and turned around, that they are the sickness we´re facing. Who are the fear mongerers?
Who speak with the loudest voices? Who are the ones that point their fingers at the official rooms? The danger is to be too
impressed by loud speaking people, by selfconfident narcissists, who are so sure of themselves, and that aren´t the slightest
receptive to ideas from empaths, or people that have the capacity to feel genuine love, compassion, empathy, and the capacity
to give of themselves where they see a need.

And, it´s not a conspiracy. It´just how the world works. The narcissist might be our son, our mother or husband, sister or granddad,
or a friend, or coworker, a boss... Where there´s a narcissist, the rule is the survival of the fittest, there´s no compassion. No
empathy for the weaker, the sick, disabled, the starving, the poor ones or abused people. There´s only exploitation, dehumanization,
minimization, manipulation, scheming, deception, falsehood, violations and violence. If they are good manipulators, noone in their
environments knows that their enemies are the real victims, the targets of their abuse. Their environment learn about this, when
they themselves become the target. And then they get to realize, that nothing ever was as they thought. That they have been deceived.
That everything really got twisted around, and they didn´t see it coming. The narcissist can´t help themselves, they just have to
scheme, it´s their nature. All the narcissists play the same game, and there´s nothing unique about them. If what they do isn´t
accepted in the society, they just do it in the shadows. And if there are other narcissists, they cluster up together, and become
more dangerous.

The only suggestion I have, is to raise awarness of this. We can´t eradicate them. They are here to stay, as are we. But we
can learn about the red flags, and not to ignore abuse, and how to protect ourselves. To get all the abusors out of our lives,
and if that´s not possible, then reach out to communities that knows about this, and to seek support. To know that we are not
alone, even if we are manipulated into feeling isolated.  

Alraight, I´ve been hiding in my shell for a while now.
 What I´ve been hiding is my joy for writing texts, and I´m planning to out myself
with a text today. Yesterday I had no internet connection, and I spent the whole day with writing a really long text, that
I call "The blind spots in a brainwashed mind- the cultural approval of abuse". It´s really long, 9 pages. If someone
think it´s interesting, I´m glad, but I don´t expect anyone to spend so much time to read so many pages. If someone
does this anyways, I´m impressed. And that will tell a lot about the one who do. I´m thinking about the short attentionspan
that many people have today, so I really understand if nobody reads it. And I´m happy anyways, because I felt such a passion when I
wrote it, and I was in the flow. So do as you like, I´m happy with whatever. ;) I´ll submit it soon. Thanks for reading!

Have a great day! :)

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THE BLIND SPOTS IN A BRAINWASHED MIND- THE CULTURAL APPROVAL OF ABUSE


The western culture has become perverted in so many ways by narcissists and sociopaths.
Take for example this song; "I love the way you lie", by Rihanna and Eminen, it says it all. The
narcissists hijack all areas of life, all concepts
, and twist and turn them around to being something
totally different
, than they really were meant to be originally. The degradation is ingrained in our
whole western mass culture
, and it´s rampant. A lot of the music, mainstream media and movies today
are so perverted
, and twisted in such a sick way, that I feel alienated from most of the culture that is
produced. It´s twisted so, that i
t´s the victims fault, if they feel bad when they´re being abused,
like in the song I mentioned
. Movies often have a 'happy' ending, where the girl has been played and
gamed by the boy, and at the end of the movie it cuts in a 'loving' kiss and a 'promising' future, from
what we are supposed to believe.

When the movie ends, we don´t get to see the continuing abuse. We are just supposed
to fill in the blanks and assume that he came around and became "good"
, and that she´s so happy.
That 'that' is 'love' happily
ever after. Never do they enlighten us to the fact, that this guy is rutten
to his core. This girl just looks puzzled and asks "Why does he do that" in confusion, when he abuses her.
We never get the answer
s to that question. After all; it´s our "choise" to be in a relationship? Right? I´ll
expand on this so called "choise" later on. If we just corrupt our own thoughts and emotions enough ,
we will be just 'fine'. With the corruption I mean, not taking our emotions seriously, and ignoring our intuition.
To second guess the natural reaction of pain and anxiety, that are the effects of abuse. Saying to oneself: "don´t
be so sensitive,
you´re overreacting", to minimize the gutfeeling. "To feel bad is always ones own fault,
you can control your emotional state, huh?". " It´s just insecurity". "We are after all adults, aren´t we?".
"He doesn´t mean it that way". It´s twisted so that if we feel bad from how we´ve been handled by an
abusor, we´re the 'sick' one, and that´s our own fault. This concept creates a sense of isolation in us.

All the songs and music about "Love" that "hurts", the movies with women that are being treated badly, teach
and program us, about the narcissistic pervertion of a 'love'-concept, that has nothing to do with
real love. Movies and songs don´t teach us about real love, they program us of the narcissistic perversion of their
concept of "love". They teach us, that the victims are the ones that are supposed to do all the work. To selflessly and
unconditionally give of themselves to the abusor. In reality, real love never hurts. Sure, a misunderstanding or
an overstepped boundary can hurt, even if it´s not intentionally overstepped. But love in itself is pure. It´s the
belief that love is something that it´s not, that hurts. The deception and the concept of narcissistic "love". But
in reality, they have no concept of what real love is.That´s the corruption, they aren´t able to connect with
themselves and others in a way, so that real love is accessible for them. It´s abscent in their mind set.

The myth is that "girls love bad guys", and a rape gets twisted so that "she wanted to get raped". Women really don´t
love bad guys, but they are targeted by bad men, the narcissists. Then there of course are
female narcissists too. And if someone clames to 'crave' to be mistreated by a bad man, a narcissist, I question
whether this person might be a narcissist themselves, and are twisting words in some way, that I don´t understand.
The narcissists love to create confusion, and invent new meanings to words. It´s like we are talking totally different
languages, the words sounds alike, but seem to mean something different, because everything they say is so twisted
and turned around. It´s like they live in an alternative reality, separate from ours, but are able thouch our lives in an
evil way. Like in a black magic mirror, where everything is upside down, twisted to the opposite, than in our world.
Love is the same as hate, joy is to inflict pain to others, happiness is to destroy peoples lives. It´s so weird.

The concept of 'forgiveness' is being used by narcissists to control and pressure the targets, and if forgiving doesn´thappen,
the victims gets to hear they are 'bad' and can´t claim to be spiritual. I don´t suggest that forgiveness is
a bad thing in itself
, but it´s being used in a perverted way by narcissists. It´s a form of spiritual abuse, since
forgivness many times is something that spiritual communities value high.

But how educated choises can a human being do, when she lacks knowledge about what´s being done to her? Is it
stupidity to subject oneself to
an abusive person? Or is it just lack of information? Or is it a whole society or even whole
nations, that are blinded by the fact, that here are a lot of narcissists everywhere, and that they are evil? Not
even psychologists and doctors knows how to spot a narcissist.
They are so "talented" in deceiving us. We´re being showered
with attitudes from everywhere, that overconfidence and 'self love' in massive amounts is the wayto go. There are so many
"techniques" we can learn, to how to raise our selfconfidence, and they all cost a lot of money, since a high selfconfidence has
such a high value in our society. These attributes are so 'attractive' to us, or, we´re being hypnotized into believing that they are. 
Mainstream media use these traits, as to how we should be as human beings, they are the role models. Even a narcissist won the US
election! "So that must really be the best way to be". They are alway so overly portrayed everywhere, as if these are 'greatness'
and admirable traits. Most of us are buying in to this.  

Abuse is never an isolated incident, it´s ingrained in our culture. But we, the targets, experience the abuse intensely in isolation,
without knowing that this is going on everywhere. When targets don´t have support anywhere, and feel isolated,
they are easily manipulated. This is a huge problem in our society.
The abusors are portra
yed as the "popular" ones. Why? Because there are so many abusors and narcissists out there,
in USA there are 12 million sociopaths!!! Imagine how much damage they create every single day! And then let´s add all the
narcissists and borderliners, that´s a lot of millions of narcissists and socipaths! They cluster up together and get stronger
in groups. They live by their own rules, cross every boundarie they can. They choose their targets together, and they even
abuse each other, and they like it. To accidentally find oneself in a situation with a group of abusors, narcissists and sociopaths,
is really dangerous. And this includes families with one or several narcissists.

As kids the narcissists are the ones that bully other kids, in particular the vulnerable ones, that don´t conform and
participate in their abuse and bullying. They abuse their pets, sometimes even kill them, or at least handle them harshly.
They abuse their more sensitive siblings, and never conform to their parents rules, or just pretend that they do.
Nor do they conform to their teachers rules at school.
Their inner landscapes and emotions are twisted to the right opposite, compared to kids who are able to experience
genuine love. The narcissist kids love to inflict pain and destruction to other peoples lives, even their own families. They
always are the desruptive ones at school, and destroy the environment to the other kids, so that it´s more difficult to
concentrate and to learn. The yelling, intimidations and violations at the school environment stresses and traumatizes
the more vulnerable kids, and again, this creates problems with focusing on the tasks they have at their hands at school. So many
vulnerable kids are so traumatized by the school environment, that they early on develop depression, anxiety and other problems.
The narcissist kids love the things, that the kids with capacity to love fear and feel disgusted about, and dont´t like. The
narcissist kids don´t like kindness, curiosity, compassion, generosity and care, they are perfectly well all together without these.
They don´t seek nurture or closeness from their parents or siblings. If they do, it´s always with some agenda in their sleeves.
They don´t connect to their parents, or their environment at all. Their goal is to take control over their environments, even as kids.
To try to speak to a narcissist kid about emotions, is totally futile, it´s not gonna happen, because they don´t have emotions
the same way as we have, so they can´t relate to our way of speaking of emotions, since theirs are biologically twisted to
the opposite than our emotions, so that´s never gonna happen. I have been working with kids, and have experience on this
subject.
The narcissist kid love to steal, intimidate their school mates, to lie and deceive. And nothing is gonna
change this equation, nothing. And we´re not allowed to diagnose these evil kids, because they "might grow out of their
conditions". But actually they never do, they just get smarter and more covert in their deceptions and abuse, they learn from other
adult narcissists how to be more sneaky about their evil doings. They are not kids with genuine intentions, they are the same
as they are when they become adults. They practice evil doing their whole lives. This is what was given to them at birth,
and that´s never gonna change. And the adult narcissists protect these narcissist kids, so that the abuse is totally
impossible to stop in any school. The adult narcsissist teachers even cluster up with the narcissist kids, and both enable
and participate in the abuse to continue at school. And the narcissistic parents do the same at home, enables the abuse
of the more sensitive siblings. Since the narcissist teachers, parents, kids in every school cluster up, the vulnerable kids
have no protenction anywhere. This is the reason why so many vulnerable kids, who are targeted, commit suicide. And it´s
twisted in the way, that these vulnerable kids were 'psychologically ill', in other words, it´s their own fault that they react and feel
the pain and anxiety from being bullied.
They are targets at all areas of life, at home, at school, other kids, relatives, every aspect of life where there are narcissists.
And the abusors protect each other. The word "bullying" is also a word that is used to minimize the abuse, so that the vulnerable
victim gets to be blamed. They often get to hear, "what did you do to provoke the other kids?!?" Even from the parents. So there´s
no way for a target kid to protect themselves, or to get help anywhere. No adults listen to a vulnerable kid, anywhere. Noone
understand what they are going through. Or the ones that perhaps do understand, are the ones who were victimized themselves
as kids, and still are victims and are being victimized as adults, who have a very little capacity to provide any protection or change
in the school environment.

As grown ups the narcissists either become criminals, or seek positions of power in society, where they can continue
their abuse of vulnerable individuals, or targets. Sometimes even not so vulnerable individuals, but the vulnerable are the
easy ones, and narcissists prefer not to make any greater effort if they don´t have to. If they are not able to get a
prestigeous job, they choose the criminal path, or just to get a woman pregnant, and abuse her and the child behind
closed doors. Or if they are a woman, they do the same with a man and some kids. If they aren´t able to catch a woman
and produce kids, they abuse coworkers at work, rape someone, troll the internet, steal, lie, and whatever they
can come up with. There´s always some damage they can do wherever they are. To engage with a narcissist is like
wrestling with a pig in a mud hole, and the pig likes it.  


To own our problems. "You are the creator of your own reality", when thrown in the face of a target, it´s abuse. "You can´t
change anyone but yourself
" is another one, that I´ll expand on later. "It takes two to tango" gives the abuser a great excuse
to blame the target, when really being the abusing one. "You´re all about drama" is the pointing at the reaction to the abuse,
within the victim, and the blameshifting that narcissists are doing. The narcissist is the one who manipulate us to react dramatically
by harassing us, and then blaming us for the response they expect us to have. "You´re so insecure", is the shifting of focus to
the
effect of the abuse, instead of the abuser and the abuse itself, and then again blaming us for it. "She´s so needy" is another
way to twist a manipulation away from the narcissist, so that they can blame their victim for the reaction of being ignored on
purpose by the narcissist. It´s really hard for the target to try to "own" her "own" problems, because they don´t belong to her.
The narcissist inflicts these problems onto her, makes them hers, but they are really his. And the targets succomb to the
narcissists manipulations, and are the ones who go to therapy. The target seem to be the 'sick' one. They´re the ones with
anxiety, and isn´t anxiety a sickness?(I don´t agree, it´s a healthy way to react in a sick environment). So it must be them?
The narcissists are feeling just fine, and they on purpose manufacture new problems and psychological and physical diseases for the victim,
that were´nt there before. So, is it fair to say to a target, that she must own her own problems? No, I don´t think so! This is,
again, the narcissist twisting things around to victimize the target.


It´s a bad advice to tell a victim to "own" her "own" problems, since the narcissist is the one manufacturing them all the time.
The narcissist really is the one who is the source of our pain. We try to treat the effects of the narcissists abuse, but there´s
no way of healing in this concept. We need to know that the narcissist IS THE problem, not us.

To have a narcissist in our lives is like sitting in the middle of a field of peace, and suddenly there´s an army of soldiers coming to
attack us. And we sit there in the field, and wondering what´s wrong with us, it hurts so much when the bullets are piercing our skin.
Why does our skin react in that way? Here´s only love? And there comes blood? Why are we bleeding? We don´t understand. Why
does this happen to us? We continue to sit there, and pretend that there´s peace, but there will never be peace, ever.
And we begin to second guess ourselves; maybe we deserved to have our skin pierced with bullets? Maybe we´re unworthy?
We maybe seek therapy. Why did that happen? Why are we so anxious? Why can´t we sleep? What did we do wrong?
(We didn´t leave) Then there comes more bullets. Aoutch! More pain. We don´t realize that that´s what soldiers do,
they shoot bullets into bodies. And we hear the soldiers praise the wonderfulness of bullets, and how great they are, and
that it´s our own fault that we feel pain when they shoot at us, not theirs!!! They did nothing wrong! The soliders convince
us that the bullets are healthy, and that we are to blame for them coming at us. It´s for our own good, they say. We made
them shoot, they´re innocent! And by the way, they didn´t actually shoot at all, they just moved their arms a little, but there
are holes in our skin. And the holes hurt. Or, after all, there were not even any guns, so you´re just imagining, you´re crazy,
it IS your fault
!! And we are confused. Wasn´t this supposed to be "love"? No, not to them.
We were only pieces in their game, their pretending. We didn´t know we were a part in a game, that we were set up for. But we
were played, and they were the ones that set up the rules, it was their game board, and we had no clue.


When we look at the problem as isolated to our own personal experiences, we miss that this is a cultural attitude, and that
narcissism in our society is growing hugely every day. Sensitivity, emotions, gutfeelings are something we´re not supposed to care
about, we´re programmed into ignoring these from childhood. Or, if the narcissists are interested in emotions and spirituality, they
pervert even these. In these cases, they specialize in manipulating the targets, so that they never are able to recognize abuse. A
lot of so called spiritual communities speak of a concept, where there is no "I" or person, but "we are all one". So when there´s no
"me", there´s no "I" who can be aware of being abused, while abuse is going on. This becomes a blind spot in a brainwashed mind.


When we are being accused of playing the role of victimhood, things are getting twisted around. Yes, the abusor often pretends
to be a victim, often convinsingly. The narcissist pervert the concept of victimhood in a way, so that the target can´t allow themselves
to see that they actually ARE being victimized. You´ve certainly heard :"She´s just playing the victim card!", which indicates that she
in reality isn´t one. That´s a lie. This twist also creates blind spots in society and in us, so that we´ll allow the abuse to continue,
when we see it happening to other victims. I´m sure you´ve also heard this one: "she´s just looking for attention", as if not everyone
look for that sometimes. We humans need human connections, we are social beings, and connection makes us feel good. It´s natural and healthy
to connect. And by this one they reveal, that actually they are the ones that just are seeking attention, at someone elses expense,
by pointing out that the victim doesn´t really deserve the attention that she desire, only the narcissist is the one that deserves
that attention. They twist this around, so that we are supposed to believe that it´s something wrong with us, for desiring human
connection. And for to be able to connect, we need to attend to each other, give each other our attention. Narcissists try to block
this attention, so we won´t have access to neither our own attention, theirs or anyone elses attention. Their agenda is to isolate us.


The narcissists also manipulate us to cross our own boundaries, so we sometimes behave in ways that´s not in our character, and
that is against our own values. This raises our inner tension, to loose the sense of control over our own behaviour. They want to
corrupt our minds and behaviours, so that we´re not able to think for ourselves, and make our own decisions, based on our values.
All the narcissist parents, teachers and other narcissist people that possibly can dominate a situation take the advantage of this kind
of manipulation.


When not seeing things for what they really are, it´s like trying to navigate with a map, that is empty. There are no directions,
no clues as to where to go, how to behave. We become confused and lost. We loose our dreams, ambitions, passions, goals,
friends, families, our hobbies, jobs, our health, night sleep, and our inner engines doesn´t work as they used to...We become
endlessly tired. We don´t even know who we are eventually. This is the end goal of the narcissist, and their success is completed.
All concepts are being perverted by the narcissists. We´re not allowed to admit to ourselves that we are being victimized. This is
the crazymaking, the danger to our health. "Why do I feel so bad?". "I feel sick, but the doctor says there´s nothing wrong with me".
We are not allowed to see reality as it is. This twisting around with words and our minds, takes away the tools for us all to understand
reality, and our experiences. It´s so dangerous and confusing to a victim and to the whole society. This is the draining of our energy,
our life force, the vampirism.

Have you ever concidered the societys fascination of the vampire movies? Or, have you seen the animated movie "Monsters Inc"?
These monsters travel into childrens rooms by night, when the children are asleep. They jump out in the room and scare the
children, and the monsters are energized by this interaction with the children and their fear. This is, again, a portrait of the
narcissism in the society. The narcissists are the dangerous entities that are sucking our life force out of us, and we are like small
children uninformed by this assault, scared and abused by them. These movies about vampires has always been utterly uninteresting
to me, and I never understood the fascination people have of them. But now I do. They see something about themselves in these
characters. We also have all the movies about Dracula, the blood sucking entity, that is so 'attractive' to women. What is attractive
about being sucked out of ones life force? Nothing at all, in my humble opinion.  


We´re programmed into having blind spots.

We´re not supposed to be aware of, that abuse is going on everywhere in the society. When someone mistreats us, we´re expected
to look within ourselves, to see what´s wrong within US, even if there is nothing wrong. Think of the new age movement and
religions, they encourage us all to always look inwardly, never to point a finger at another person, however they might have
mistreated us, and to find what´s wrong within ourselves. Just turn the other cheek, so they can hit it too!! It´s like the new
age movement and religions are helping and supporting the narcissists agenda. The narcissists never subject themselves to turn
the other cheek for a second slap, not even the first slap. They always see to be the ones that are delivering the slaps, and that
the victims are always at the receiving end for the slap. They see to that a victim always stays a victim, and that the abusor stays
an abusor. But we, the victims, we are so cooperative in our mindset, so we do this, blame ourselves as we are told to, and are expected
to do, we really are 'good girls and boys', and we do turn the other cheek for the second slap. We want to be so good, so we stop thinking
about the injustice in how it is set up for us. The movements and religions suggests us to "own our own problems and
issues" which is a bogus-trick, so we continue to ignore the abuse. We´re not being taught how to protect ourselves, we´re taught to
be at the receiving end of abuse, right from the start. And the society is reinforcing this mind set, still today! We´re not taught to trust
our own opinions, thoughts, desires and views, or how to spot an abuser. We didn´t have someone who protected us against abuse as
children, noone really saw us and our suffering. We weren´t allowed to think for ourselves, since every time we tried to voice our
thoughts, they´ve been silenced by a toxic environment, that harshly minimized and ridiculed every word that came out of our mouths.
Both our homes and schools has been a great "help" in this suppression. So how would we know, how to avoid the danger in these
relationships
? So did we really choose these relationships? I would say no, we were targeted from the start!! There´s no way we
could have known what we were set up for.

The New Age and self help/coaching movements are a lot to blame also here. We´re being told that "you can´t change anyone else,
you can only change yourself", which is only a half truth. It´s true that you can´t change someone else, but the truth is also that we
actually can´t change ourselves either. I know, it´s a chocking concept, but nonetheless it´s a fact. Just concider this;

The only thing we can do is to learn to accept ourselves as we already are. We come up with a set of genes, up to date conditionings,
conclusions about them, insights or lack of them. Then we have the life circumstances that we cannot control, shit happens. We also
have our unconscious mind, which rules about 95% of our lives. So... we really can´t change who we are, but the abusor wants us to
believe that
we can! What a trick!!!They wants us to do the chicken race 24/7, us to be the one who do all the analyzing, the self
reflecting, the seeking, the therapy, all the meditation and the work, take all the responsibility for the whole relationship, to be the one
who fixes the relationship and everything else, the one who tries to heal. All of it is a task that is doomed to be failed. So we come to
feel like failures... While them themselves are leaning back in the couch enjoying the show!! We´re so wrapped up in looking for solutions,
as to how to fix our lives, without realizing that that´s not in our power. We´re the ones that are expected to seek help for "our sickness"
that they project on to us. And it really belongs to them. Here again, it´s the upside- down -inside -out -twisted-world.


This whole concept of having so much responisibility is draining our spirit. They want us to question ourselves and find the faults
within US, so we won´t see what´s going on. Not to say that we can´t grow and be more aware of ourselves and our lives- but
our true Self
, our inner core, is what it is. It´s never gonna change. This is what´s given by the creator to us, when we were
born, it´s what we´re 'stuck' with for our entire lives. So why question it, and try to fight ourselves? We might as well go on and
accept ourselves, as we are. To try to change ourselves, is to set us up to a task that is impossible to succeed in, and endless, and
it will keep us occupied from living our lives. It becomes a pseudo life. And we won´t succeed, since we already are who we are. And it´s
impossible to try to become what we are not. It´s a deception.

This is another trick the narcissists play on us; we´re not supposed to see what they are, AND we´re also not supposed to see
ourselves for who we truely are. They want us to see ourselves as flaud, imperfect, and something that got stuck under the dogs paw.
Worthless in other words. By this assault we get deeply motivated and committed in claiming our self worth, to prove to the narcissist
that we actually are worth something, aren´t we? So, we become spiritual seekers. This is a part of our never ending chicken race with
ourselves. Without knowing that we already are worthy from the beginning. Such a waste! They take away our self worth, so that we get
to spend our time reclaiming what already is ours!

There are so many pseudo sciences, that are created for the sole purpose, for people to try to "fix" themselves, to
constantly try to change oneself to a "better me", which is never gonna happen. Healing comes only with accepting, and
allowing oneself to be who we truely are, including all the difficult and painful emotions we experience, by getting all the
abusors out of our lives.

TO LOOK WITHIN

The new age and coaching movements usually recommend us to "look within" (I´m not saying we should ignore our inner landscapes,
please don´t misunderstand this
). Maybe we want to see ourselves as spiritual beings, and narcissists even corrupt this concept of
"looking within". They want us to look within, but not to our spiritual inner being, they want us to focus inwardly to our pain, and in
massive amounts of time
.They want us to obsess about the pain. And they want us to desire a "fix" for this pain. They want us to
be overwhelmed with this task!

And we´re truely so despereate to "fix" the problems and pains, and we need to believe that they are fixable, with the narcissist
being there in the mix. We need to feel that there´s something we actually can do. We´re not ready to accept that we feel
powerlessness, hopelessness and depression, it´s too painful. We try to juggle with the equation, with the narcissist in
the middle of everything, like the blue elephant in the room, that we´re not supposed to see. He´s there, and he´s desruptive,
and we ignore the disruption. Huh? And it´s painful.

We are tricked into believing that only if WE fix OUR pain, OUR anxieties/insecurities, OUR depressions, then we won´t see that these
are the EFFECTS of what is going on. It´s like a magic trick. They´re off the hook. We´re blinded by the effects that THEY are
inflicting on us.

But it´s not until we accept the powerlessness, helplessness, pain and depression as our inner guidance system, take them really
seriously, listen to our emotions in every possible way, that we can come
to terms with the truth and reality. It´s the situation with the abusor that is the whole reason for the hopelessness,
powerlessness, pain and the depression. THEY wants us to believe, that we can do something about the situation, but the truth is,
that he´s not gonna help in any way!! They blind sides us, deceives us, lies, manipulates and it´s impossible to improve anything
when an abusor is in our close vicinity. They love to watch our chicken race with ourselves! It´s their creation! And we have no clue.

Pretty soon after we leave the abusor, and go no contact, and lick our wounds, we heal and get to feel better. The depression
heals, the anxiety disappears, unless we again entangle our lives with another abusor, and unless we have other abusors in our
lives. But we might have encountered fibromyalgia or other diseases due to the former abuse already.  

The only thing we can do is to accept our experiences, cut our losses, lick our wounds and hope to heal. And to be aware every
time we meet new people, that they might be an abusor, a narcissist. To raise awarness of the red flags, and go out in life and
try out our wings again. To see if we can fly by ourselves, without a narcissist that drains us on our life forces.

This is the same concept for communities and nations. The awarness of these disruptive people needs to be raised. A big problem
is that the narcissists are drawn into positions of power in our communities and nations. They are certainly not the ones who´s
gonna cooperate in sharing this information, they don´t want anyone to know. Noone can protect themselves, if they don´t know
what the danger is, not even the communities or nations. Their end goal is to corrupt, control, disrupt, destroy, destruct, deceive,
steal, rob, threat, rape, violate, victimize, and to serve only themselves. They aren´t gonna help, in trying to improve anything in
the society. They want to do their work in the shadows.

The narcissists are gonna try to do the blameshifting again, and find reasons why
all the problems are the victims fault. That the victims are the violent ones, the deceiving ones, the dangerous. Let´s not buy into this.
And remember, everything is being so distorted and twisted around, that the values the mainstream media is standing for,
are most of the time so twisted and turned around, that they are the sickness we´re facing. Who are the fear mongerers?
Who speak with the loudest voices? Who are the ones that point their fingers at the official rooms? The danger is to be too
impressed by loud speaking people, by selfconfident narcissists, who are so sure of themselves, and that aren´t the slightest
receptive to ideas from empaths, or people that have the capacity to feel genuine love, compassion, empathy, and the capacity
to give of themselves where they see a need.

And, it´s not a conspiracy. It´just how the world works. The narcissist might be our son, our mother or husband, sister or granddad,
or a friend, or coworker, a boss... Where there´s a narcissist, the rule is the survival of the fittest, there´s no compassion. No
empathy for the weaker, the sick, disabled, the starving, the poor ones or abused people. There´s only exploitation, dehumanization,
minimization, manipulation, scheming, deception, falsehood, violations and violence. If they are good manipulators, noone in their
environments knows that their enemies are the real victims, the targets of their abuse. Their environment learn about this, when
they themselves become the target. And then they get to realize, that nothing ever was as they thought. That they have been deceived.
That everything really got twisted around, and they didn´t see it coming. The narcissist can´t help themselves, they just have to
scheme, it´s their nature. All the narcissists play the same game, and there´s nothing unique about them. If what they do isn´t
accepted in the society, they just do it in the shadows. And if there are other narcissists, they cluster up together, and become
more dangerous.

The only suggestion I have, is to raise awarness of this. We can´t eradicate them. They are here to stay, as are we. But we
can learn about the red flags, and not to ignore abuse, and how to protect ourselves. To get all the abusors out of our lives,
and if that´s not possible, then reach out to communities that knows about this, and to seek support. To know that we are not
alone, even if we are manipulated into feeling isolated.  

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