The western culture has become perverted in so many ways by narcissists and sociopaths. Take for example this song; "I love the way you lie", by Rihanna and Eminen, it says it all. The narcissists hijack all areas of life, all concepts, and twist and turn them around to being something totally different, than they really were meant to be originally. The degradation is ingrained in our whole western mass culture, and it´s rampant. A lot of the music, mainstream media and movies today are so perverted, and twisted in such a sick way, that I feel alienated from a lot of it. It´s twisted so, that it´s the victims fault, if they feel bad when they´re being abused, like in the song I mentioned above.
Movies often have a 'happy' ending, where the girl has been played and gamed by the boy, and at the end of the movie it cuts in a 'loving' kiss and a 'promising' future.When the movie ends, we don´t get to see the continuing abuse. We are just supposed to fill in the blanks and assume that he came around and became "good". That 'that' is 'love' happily ever after. Never do they enlighten us to the fact, that this guy is rutten to his core. This girl just looks puzzled and asks "Why does he do that" in confusion, when he abuses her. We never get the answers to that question. After all; it´s our "choise" to be in a relationship? I´ll expand on this so called "choise" later on.
If we just corrupt our own thoughts and emotions enough, we will be just 'fine'. With the corruption I mean, not taking our emotions seriously, and ignoring our intuition. To second guess the natural reaction of pain and anxiety, that are the effects of abuse. Saying to oneself: "don´t be so sensitive, you´re overreacting", to minimize the gutfeeling. "To feel bad is always ones own fault, you can control your emotional state?". " It´s just insecurity". "We are after all adults?". "He doesn´t mean it that way". It´s twisted so that if we feel bad from how we´ve been handled by an abusor, we´re the 'sick' one, and that´s our own fault. This concept creates a sense of isolation within us.
All the songs and music about "Love" that "hurts", the movies with women that are being treated badly, teach and program us, about the narcissistic pervertion of a 'love'-concept, that has nothing to do with real love. Movies and songs don´t teach us about real love, they program us of the narcissistic perversion of their concept of "love".
They teach us, that the victims are the ones that are supposed to do all the work. To selflessly and unconditionally give of themselves to the abusor. In reality, real love never hurts. Sure, a misunderstanding or an overstepped boundary can hurt, even if it´s not intentionally overstepped. But love in itself is pure. It´s the belief that love is something that it´s not, that hurts. The deception and the concept of narcissistic "love". But in reality, they have no concept of what real love is. That´s the corruption, they aren´t able to connect with themselves and others in a way, so that real love is accessible to them. It´s abscent in their mind set.
The myth is that "girls love bad guys", and a rape gets twisted so that "she wanted to get raped". Women really don´t love bad guys, but they are targeted by bad men, the narcissists. Then there of course are female narcissists too. The narcissists love to create confusion, and invent new meanings to words. It´s like we are talking totally different languages, the words sounds alike, but seem to mean something different, because everything they say is so twisted and distorted. It´s like they live in an alternative reality, separate from ours, but are able thouch our lives in an evil way. Like in a black magic mirror, where everything is upside down, twisted to the opposite, than in our world. Love is the same as hate, joy is to inflict pain to others, happiness is to destroy peoples lives.
The concept of 'forgiveness' is being used by narcissists to control and pressure the targets, and if forgiving doesn´thappen, the victims gets to hear they are 'bad' and can´t claim to be spiritual. I don´t suggest that forgiveness is a bad thing in itself, but it´s being used in a perverted way by narcissists. It´s a form of spiritual blackmailing, since forgivness many times is something that spiritual communities value high.
But how educated choises can a human being do, when she lacks knowledge about what´s being done to her? Is it stupidity to subject oneself to an abusive person? Or is it just lack of information? Or is it a whole society or even whole nations, that are blinded by the fact, that here are a lot of narcissists everywhere, and that they are evil? Not even psychologists and doctors knows how to spot a narcissist. They are so "talented" in deceiving us. We´re being showered with attitudes from everywhere, that overconfidence and 'self love' in massive amounts is the way to go. These attributes are so 'attractive' to us, or, we´re being hypnotized into believing that they are. Mainstream media use these traits, as to how we should be as human beings, they are the 'role models'. They are always so overly portrayed everywhere, as if these are 'greatness' and admirable traits. Most of us are buying in to this.
Abuse is never an isolated incident, it´s ingrained in our culture. But we, the targets, experience the abuse intensely in isolation, without knowing that this is going on everywhere. The abusors are portrayed as the "popular" ones. Why? Because there are so many abusors and narcissists out there, in USA there are 12 million sociopaths! Imagine how much damage they create every single day! And then let´s add all the narcissists and borderliners, that´s a lot of millions of narcissists and socipaths! They cluster up together and get stronger in groups. They live by their own rules, cross every boundarie they can. They choose their targets together, and they even abuse each other, and they like it. To accidentally find oneself in a situation with a group of abusors, narcissists and sociopaths, is really dangerous. And this includes families with one or several narcissists.
As kids the narcissists are the ones that bully other kids, in particular the vulnerable ones, that don´t conform and participate in their abuse and bullying. They abuse their pets, and handle them harshly. They abuse their more sensitive siblings, and never conform to their parents rules, or just pretend that they do. Nor do they conform to their teachers rules at school.
The narcissistic kids inner landscapes and emotions are twisted to the right opposite, compared to kids who are able to experience genuine love. The narcissist kids love to inflict pain and destruction to other peoples lives. They are unable to ever apologize for wrongdoings to others, or if they do, there´s some manipulation behind the apology, and it´s delivered in a nasty way.
They always are the desruptive ones at school, and destroy the environment to the other kids, so that it´s more difficult to concentrate and to learn. The yelling, intimidations and violations at the school environment stresses and traumatizes the more vulnerable kids. So many of them are so traumatized by the school environment, that they early on develop depression, anxiety and other problems. The narcissist kids 'love' the things, that the kids with capacity to love fear and feel disgusted about, and dont´t like.
The narcissist kids don´t like kindness, curiosity, compassion, generosity and care, they are perfectly well all together without these. They just want to take whatever they like, from whomever that comes in their way. They are entitled right from the start. If an adult who is capable of empathy, tries to reach out to a narcissistic kid, they are being rejected. They don´t seek nurture nor closeness from their parents or siblings. If they do, it´s always with some agenda in their sleeves. They don´t connect to their parents, or their environment at all. The narcissistic kids don´t share thoughts openly with others. Their goal is to take control over their environments, even as kids, by being disruptive, abusive, teasing and never take others into concideration. Why they are so disrupting at school for example, is because they get so much narcissistic supply, fuel, from the attention. They don´t care if it´s positive or negative, it´s pure fuel! These kids think they are entitled to desrupt the environment for everybody else, because they really don´t care about other people.
To try to speak to a narcissist kid about emotions, is totally futile, it´s not gonna happen, because they don´t have emotions the same way as we have, so they can´t relate to our way of speaking of emotions, since theirs are biologically twisted to the opposite than our emotions, so that´s never gonna happen.
The narcissist kid love to steal, intimidate their school mates, to lie and deceive, and to cross every boundarie they possibly can. And nothing is gonna change this equation. And we´re not allowed to diagnose these evil kids, because they "might grow out of their conditions". But actually they never do, they just get smarter and more covert in their deceptions and abuse, they learn from other adult narcissists how to be more sneaky about their evil doings. And the irony is that their targets are the ones that get to be diagnosed, but not because they´re sick, but as a result of being abused and the anxiety and pain that the abuse creates. They are the ones that gets medicated. It´s like the narcissistic kids are protected by the society, noone gets to touch these kids, or question their evilness. "They´re just kids, and that´s how kids are"? No, that´s not true. Other kids are able to care and take others into concideration, but not the narcissistic kids. They are pure evil.
They are not kids with genuine intentions, they are the same as they are when they become adults. They practice evil doing their whole lives. This is what was given to them at birth, and that´s never gonna change. And the adult narcissists protect these narcissist kids, so that the abuse is totally impossible to stop at any school. The adult narcsissistic teachers even cluster up with the narcissist kids, and both enable and participate in the abuse to continue at school. And the narcissistic parents do the same at home, enables the abuse of the more sensitive siblings. Since the narcissistic teachers, parents, kids in every school cluster up, the vulnerable kids have no protection anywhere. This is the reason why so many vulnerable kids, who are targeted, commit suicide. And it´s twisted in the way, that these vulnerable kids were 'psychologically ill', in other words, it´s their own fault that they react and feel the pain and anxiety from being bullied.
They are targets at all areas of life, at home, at school, other kids, relatives, every aspect of life where there are narcissists. And the abusors protect each other. The word "bullying" is also a word, that is used to minimize the abuse, so that the vulnerable victim gets to be blamed for being bullyed. They often get to hear, "what did you do to provoke the other kids?!?" Even from the parents. So there´s no way for a target kid to protect themselves, or to get help anywhere. Not many adults listen to a vulnerable kid. Or the ones that perhaps do listen, are the ones who were victimized themselves as kids, and still are victims, who have a very little capacity to provide any protection or change in the school environment, since they suffer themselves.
As grown ups the narcissists either become criminals, or seek positions of power in society, where they can continue their abuse of vulnerable individuals, or targets. Sometimes even not so vulnerable individuals, but the vulnerable are the easy ones, and narcissists prefer not to make any greater effort if they don´t have to. If they are not able to get a prestigeous job, they choose the criminal path, or just to get a woman pregnant, and abuse her and the child behind closed doors. Or, if they are a woman, they do the same with a man and some kids. If they aren´t able to catch a woman and produce kids, they abuse coworkers at work, rape someone, troll the internet, steal, lie, and whatever they can come up with. There´s always some damage they can do wherever they are. To engage with a narcissist is like wrestling with a pig in a mud hole, and the pig likes it.
"You are the creator of your own reality", when thrown in the face of a target, it´s abuse.
"You can´t change anyone but yourself" is another one, that I´ll expand on later.
"It takes two to tango" gives the abuser a great excuse to blame the target, when really being the abusing one.
"You´re all about drama" is the pointing at the reaction to the abuse, within the victim, and the blameshifting that narcissists are doing. The narcissist is the one who manipulate us to react dramatically by harassing us, and then blaming us for the response they expect us to have.
"You´re so insecure", is the shifting of focus to the effect of the abuse, instead of the abuser and the abuse itself, and then again blaming us for it.
"She´s so needy" is another way to twist a manipulation away from the narcissist, so that they can blame their victim for the reaction of being ignored on purpose by the narcissist.
It´s really hard for the target to try to "own" her "own" problems, because they don´t belong to her. The narcissist inflicts these problems onto her, makes them hers, but they are really his. And the targets succomb to the narcissists manipulations, and are the ones who go to therapy. The target seem to be the 'sick' one. They´re the ones with anxiety, and isn´t anxiety a sickness? So it must be them? The narcissists are feeling just fine, and they on purpose manufacture new problems and psychological and physical diseases for the victim, that were´nt there before. So, is it fair to say to a target, that she must own her own problems? No, I don´t think so. This is, again, the narcissist twisting things around to victimize the target. If someone is throwing acid at our faces, are we the ones that are responsible for the pain that the damage inflicts on our skin? It´s the same thing to claim that the victim has to "own their own problem".
The narcissist really is the source of our pain. We try to treat the effects of the narcissists abuse, but there´s no way of healing in this concept. We need to know that the narcissist IS THE problem, not us.
To have a narcissist in our lives is like sitting in the middle of a field of peace, and suddenly there´s an army of soldiers coming to attack us. And we sit there in the field, and wondering what´s wrong with us, it hurts so much when the bullets are piercing our skin. Why does our skin react in that way? Here´s only love? And there comes blood? Why are we bleeding? We don´t understand. Why does this happen to us? We continue to sit there, and pretend that there´s peace, but there will never be peace, ever. And we begin to second guess ourselves; maybe we deserved to have our skin pierced with bullets? Maybe we´re unworthy? We maybe seek therapy. Why are we so anxious? Why can´t we sleep? What did we do wrong? Maybe I have a low self esteem? Then there comes more bullets. Aoutch! More pain. We don´t realize that that´s what soldiers do, they shoot bullets into bodies. And we hear the soldiers praise the wonderfulness of bullets, and how great they are, and that it´s our own fault that we feel pain when they shoot at us, not theirs!!! They did nothing wrong! The soliders convince us that the bullets are healthy, and that we are to blame for them coming at us. It´s for our own good, they say. We made them shoot, they´re innocent! And by the way, they didn´t actually shoot at all, they just moved their arms a little, but there are holes in our skin. And the holes hurt. Or, after all, there were not even any guns, so you´re just imagining, you´re crazy, it IS your fault!! And we are confused. Wasn´t this supposed to be "love"? No, not to them. We were only pieces in their game, in their pretending. We didn´t know we were a part of a game, that we were set up for. But we were played, and they were the ones that set up the rules, it was their game board, and we had no clue.
When we look at the problem as isolated to our own personal experiences, we miss that this is a cultural attitude, and that narcissism in our society is growing hugely every day. Sensitivity, emotions, gutfeelings are something we´re not supposed to care about, we´re programmed into ignoring these from childhood. Or, if the narcissists are interested in emotions and spirituality, they pervert even these. In these cases, they specialize in manipulating the targets, so that they never are able to recognize abuse. A lot of so called spiritual communities speak of a concept, where there is no "I" or person, but "we are all one". So when there´s no "me", there´s no "I" who can be aware of being abused, while abuse is going on. This becomes a blind spot in a brainwashed mind.
When we are being accused of playing the role of victimhood, things are getting twisted around. Yes, the abusor often pretends to be a victim, often convinsingly. The narcissist pervert the concept of victimhood in a way, so that the target can´t allow themselves to see that they actually ARE being victimized. You´ve certainly heard :"She´s just playing the victim card!", which indicates that she in reality isn´t a victim. This twist also creates blind spots in society and in us, so that we´ll allow the abuse to continue, when we see it happening to other victims. I´m sure you´ve also heard this one: "she´s just looking for attention", as if not everyone look for that sometimes. We humans need human connections, we are social beings, and connection makes us feel good. It´s natural and healthy to connect. And by this one they reveal, that actually they are the ones that just are seeking attention, at someone elses expense, by pointing out that the victim doesn´t really deserve the attention that she desire, only the narcissist is the one that deserves that attention. They twist this around, so that we are supposed to believe that it´s something wrong with us, for desiring human connection. And for to be able to connect, we need to attend to each other, give each other our attention. Narcissists try to block this attention, so we won´t have access to neither our own attention, theirs or anyone elses attention. Their agenda is to isolate us.
The narcissists also manipulate us to cross our own boundaries, so we sometimes behave in ways that´s not in our character, and that is against our own values. This is what I see in the video with Rihanna and Eminem "I love the way you lie". This raises our inner tension, to loose the sense of control over our own behaviour. They want to corrupt our minds and behaviours, so that we´re not able to think for ourselves, and make our own decisions, based on our values. In other words, zombies or slaves that obey their commands.
When not seeing things for what they really are, it´s like trying to navigate with a map, that is empty. There are no directions, no clues as to where to go, or how to behave. We become confused and lost. We loose our dreams, ambitions, passions, goals, friends, families, our hobbies, jobs, our health, money, night sleep, and our inner engines doesn´t work as they used to...We become endlessly tired. We don´t even know who we are eventually. This is the end goal of the narcissist, and their success is completed.
All concepts are being perverted by the narcissists. We´re not allowed to admit to ourselves that we are being victimized. This is the crazymaking, the danger to our health. "Why do I feel so bad?". "I feel sick, but the doctor says there´s nothing wrong with me". We are not allowed to see reality as it is. This twisting around with words and our minds, takes away the tools for us all to understand reality, and our experiences. It´s so dangerous and confusing to a victim and to the whole society. This is the draining of our energy, our life force, the vampirism.
Have you ever concidered the societys fascination of the vampire movies? Or, have you seen the animated movie "Monsters Inc"? These monsters travel into childrens rooms by night, when the children are asleep. They jump out in the room and scare the children, and the monsters are energized by this interaction with the children and their fear. This is, again, a portrait of the narcissism in the society. The narcissists are the dangerous entities that are sucking our life force out of us, and we are like small children uninformed by this assault, scared and abused by them. We also have all the movies about Dracula, the blood sucking entity, that is so 'attractive' to women. What is so attractive about getting ones life force sucked out? Nothing at all, in my humble opinion.
We´re programmed into having blind spots. We´re not supposed to be aware of, that abuse is going on everywhere in the society. When someone mistreats us, we´re expected to look within ourselves, to see what´s wrong within US, even if there is nothing wrong.
Think of the new age movement and religions, they encourage us all to always look inwardly, never to point a finger at another person, however they might have mistreated us, and to find what´s wrong within ourselves. Just turn the other cheek, so they can hit it too!! It´s like the new age movement and religions are helping and supporting the narcissistic agenda. The narcissists never subject themselves to turn the other cheek for a second slap, not even the first one. They always make sure to be the ones that are at the delivering end of the slaps, and that the victims are always at the receiving end. They make sure, that a victim always stays a victim, and that the abusor stays an abusor. But we, the victims, we are so cooperative in our mindset, so we do this, blame ourselves as we are told to, we look within and do find faults, as we are expected to do, we really are 'good girls and boys', and we do turn the other cheek for the second slap. We want to be so good, so we stop thinking about the injustice in how this is set up for us.
The movements and religions suggests us to "own our own problems and issues" which is a bogus-trick, so we continue to ignore the abuse. We´re not being taught how to protect ourselves, we´re taught to be at the receiving end of abuse, right from the start. And the society is reinforcing this mind set, still today! We´re not taught to trust our own opinions, thoughts, desires and views, or how to spot an abuser. We didn´t have someone who protected us against abuse as children, noone really saw us and our suffering. We weren´t allowed to think for ourselves, since every time we tried to voice our thoughts, they´ve been silenced by a toxic environment, that harshly minimized and ridiculed the words that came out of our mouths.
Both our homes and schools has been a great "help" in this suppression. So how would we know, how to avoid the danger in these abusive relationships? So did we really choose these abusive relationships? I would say no, we were targeted from the start. There´s no way we could have known what we were set up for.
The New Age and self help/coaching movements are a lot to blame also here. We´re being told that "you can´t change anyone else, you can only change yourself", which is only a half truth. It´s true that you can´t change someone else, but the truth is also that we actually can´t change ourselves either. I know, it´s a chocking concept, but nonetheless it´s a fact.
Just concider this; The only thing we can do is to learn to accept ourselves as we already are. We come up with a set of genes, up to date conditionings. Then we have the life circumstances that we cannot control, shit happens. And our unconscious mind, which rules about 95% of our lives. So... we really can´t change who we are, but the abusor wants us to believe that we can! What a trick! They want us to do the chicken race 24/7, us to be the one who do all the analyzing, the self reflecting, the seeking, the therapy, all the meditation and the work, take all the responsibility for the whole relationship, to be the one who fixes the relationship and everything else, the one who tries to heal. All of it is a task that is doomed to be failed. So we come to feel like failures... While them themselves are leaning back in the couch enjoying the show!! We´re so wrapped up in looking for solutions, as to how to fix our lives, without realizing that that´s not in our power. We´re the ones that are expected to fix "our sickness" that they project on to us. And it really belongs to them.
This whole concept of having so much responisibility is draining our spirit. They want us to question ourselves and find the faults within US, so we won´t see what´s going on. Not to say that we can´t grow and be more aware of ourselves and our lives- but our true Self, our inner core, is what it is. It´s never gonna change. It is what´s given by the creator to us, when we were born and what we´re 'stuck' with for our entire lives. So why question it, and try to fight ourselves? We might as well go on and accept ourselves, as we are. To try to change ourselves, is to set us up to a task that is impossible to succeed in, and endless, and it will keep us occupied from living our lives. It becomes a pseudo life. We won´t succeed, since we already are who we are. And it´s impossible to try to become what we are not. It´s a deception.
This is another trick the narcissists play on us; we´re not supposed to see what they are, AND we´re also not supposed to see ourselves for who we truely are. They want us to see ourselves as flaud, imperfect, something that constantly needs to be worked on, and something that got stuck under the dogs paw. Worthless in other words. By this assault we get deeply motivated and committed in claiming our self worth, to prove to the narcissist that we actually are worth something, aren´t we? So, we become spiritual seekers. This is a part of our never ending chicken race with ourselves. Without knowing that we already are worthy from the beginning. Such a waste! They take away our self worth, so that we get to spend our time reclaiming what´s already ours! There are so many pseudo sciences that are created for the sole purpose, for people to try to "fix" themselves, to constantly try to change oneself to a "better me", which is never gonna happen. Healing comes only with accepting, and allowing oneself to be who we truely are, including all the difficult and painful emotions we experience, by getting all the abusors out of our lives. We must mentally throw back all the narcissistic projections at them, force them to be the owner of them, and realize that we aren´t that bad, as they try to make us.
TO LOOK WITHIN
The new age and coaching movements usually recommend us to "look within" (I´m not saying we should ignore our inner landscapes, please don´t misunderstand this). Maybe we want to see ourselves as spiritual beings, and narcissists even corrupt this concept of "looking within". They want us to look within, but not to our spiritual inner being, they want us to focus inwardly to our pain, and in massive amounts of time. They want us to obsess about the pain. And they want us to desire a "fix" for this pain. They want us to be overwhelmed with this task! And we´re truely so despereate to "fix" the problems and pains, and we need to believe that they are fixable, with the narcissist being there in the mix. We need to feel that there´s something we actually can do, and we´re not ready to accept that we feel powerlessness, hopelessness and depression, it´s too painful. We try to juggle with the equation, with the narcissist in the middle of everything, like the blue elephant in the room, that we´re not supposed to see. He´s there, and he´s desruptive, and we ignore the disruption. And it´s painful.
We are tricked into believing that only if WE fix OUR pain, OUR anxieties/insecurities, OUR depressions, then we won´t see that these are the EFFECTS of what is going on. It´s like a magic trick. They´re off the hook. We´re blinded by the effects, pain, that THEY are inflicting on us. But it´s not until we accept the powerlessness, helplessness, pain and depression as our inner guidance system, take them really seriously, listen to our emotions in every possible way, that we can come to terms with the truth and reality. It´s the situation with the abusor that is the whole reason for the hopelessness, powerlessness, pain and the depression. THEY wants us to believe, that we can do something about the situation, but the truth is, that they´re not gonna help in any way!! They blind side us, deceive us, lie, manipulate and it´s impossible to improve anything when an abusor is in our close vicinity. They love to watch our chicken race with ourselves! It´s their creation! And we have no clue. Pretty soon after we leave the abusor, and go no contact, and lick our wounds, we heal and get to feel better. The depression heals, the anxiety disappears, unless we again entangle our lives with another abusor, and unless we have other abusors in our lives. But we might have encountered fibromyalgia or other diseases due to the former abuse already.
The only thing we can do is to accept our experiences, cut our losses, lick our wounds and hope to heal. And to be aware every time we meet new people, that they might be an abusor, a narcissist. To raise awarness of the red flags, and go out in life and try out our wings again. To see if we can fly by ourselves, without a narcissist that drains us on our life forces.
This is the same concept for communities and nations. The awarness of these disruptive people needs to be raised. A big problem is that the narcissists are drawn into positions of power in our communities and nations. A narcissist won the US election. They are certainly not the ones who are gonna cooperate in sharing this information, they don´t want anyone to know.
Noone can protect themselves, if they don´t know what the danger is, not even the communities or nations. Their end goal is to corrupt, control, disrupt, destroy, destruct, deceive, steal, rob, threat, rape, violate, victimize, and to serve only themselves. They aren´t gonna help, in trying to improve anything in the society. They want to do their evil-doings in the shadows. The narcissists are going try to do the blameshifting again, and find reasons why all the problems are the victims fault. That the victims are the violent ones, the deceiving ones, the dangerous. Let´s not buy into this. The values that the mainstream media is standing for, are most of the time so twisted and distorted, that they are the sickness we´re facing. Who are the fear mongerers? Who speak with the loudest voices? Who are the ones that point their fingers at the official rooms? The danger is to be too impressed by loud speaking people, with huge selfconfidence, who are so sure of themselves, and that aren´t the slightest receptive or interested in ideas from empaths, or people that have the capacity to feel genuine love, compassion and empathy.
And, it´s not a conspiracy. It´just how the world works. The narcissist might be our son, our mother or husband, sister or granddad, or a friend, or coworker, a boss... Where there´s a narcissist, the rule is the survival of the fittest, there´s no compassion. No empathy for the weaker, the sick, disabled, foreigners, the starving, the single mom, the poor ones or abused people. There´s only exploitation, dehumanization, minimization, manipulation, scheming, deception, falsehood, violations and violence.
If they are good manipulators, noone in their environments knows that their enemies are the real victims, the targets of their abuse. Their environment learn about this, when they themselves become the target. And then they get to realize, that nothing ever was as they thought. That they have been deceived, and they didn´t see it coming.
The only suggestion I have, is to raise our awarness of the narcissistic abuse. We can´t eradicate them. They are here to stay, as are we. But we can learn about the red flags, and stop ignoring abuse, and learn how to protect ourselves. To get all the abusors out of our lives, and if that´s not possible, then reach out to communities that knows about this, and to seek support. To know that we are not alone, even if we are manipulated into feeling isolation.
